I Dont Lioe Showong Up to Family Gatherings
- #1
So today I barely survived a christmas party with my extended family unit. Nothing makes me feel more alienated than being around relatives I tin't fifty-fifty have normal interaction with. They're good people and all, just we've never been close and have nothing in common. Nearly of my cousins I couldn't even acknowledge being there because we never got to know eachother on a friendly level or even had a one-on-one conversation. When a few of them initiate interaction I feel bad that I hadn't. My aunts and uncles no dubiousness retrieve I'g foreign, shy or a combination of both. For some reason I'thou more outgoing around total strangers than I am around these people. I just can't relate to them and don't even know what'south going on in their lives to spark an interesting conversation. I feel similar all I can practice is talk almost myself, and that gets sometime really fast when nothing exciting is going on in my life. Before these get-togethers I feel like an independant, self-sufficient loner... during and subsequently I experience like a timid little kid again like nothing has changed. I just feel so drained and depressed...
- #iii
Uggh...family reunions are the worst. No homo needs aboriginal crone-bag aunts coming upward and pinching their cheeks, telling them how absolutely precious they are! >.<
Just in seriousness, yep, I try to confine my family gatherings to just my Firsthand family.
- #4
I'm kinda one-half and half when it comes to family gatherings. Some holidays it'll but exist my firsthand family and my older brother with his wife and children. Other holidays, it'll be my immediate family and my stepmom's family unit. Now I like holidays with my older brother and his family because they're really entertaining. The oldest daughter is a couple years younger than me just we're on good terms. Her boyfriend is pretty cool too (her boyfriend pretty much lives with them). I'm also on good terms with my sis in police force. Now when information technology comes to my stepmom's family, I just want to exist alone or stay away from them. I know that they honestly don't similar me (I'one thousand basically the result from an affair between my dad and my mom) and that they talk shit almost me behind my back. It does bug me but I don't care well-nigh it.
- #6
lol i don't like family unit gatherings on my dad's side of the family, I really have trouble relating to them and they always pick at me virtually dieting. I feel like when I'm at a family gathering on my dads side that all my aunts sit and watch everything I eat or beverage so I usually don't have anything. They are all very thin, and its like if I eat something at least one of them will come talk to me almost the latest and greatest diet tricks and secrets or like the best exercise they've ever done! lol i don't want to talk nearly that if I'yard eating holiday party food. I know they mean well but they take no idea how awkward it makes me feel. I think they are all worried considering the one and just heavy relative of that side of the family (likewise my dad) passed abroad due to complications of being really overweight. I feel similar they all stare at me like I'm gonna autumn over and dice any second in thier minds. They say stuff to my dad besides but he laughs like they are joking with him, or maybe because he feels bad-mannered too. I like my moms family unit gatherings though, they don't say stuff like that, its actually like the opposite and my grandmothers like, 'if you don't eat you're gonna go too skinny' LOL how tin I be both? I managed to avoid my dad's family Christmas political party because I had to work late. Yippy! haha!
- #8
I've never cared much for family gatherings. My family unit, like all other people, I've never been really able to connect with.
- #12
Haha I love moms like that...they feel that their sole job on holidays is to generate a banquet to feed 100 people. 
----Steve
- #xiii
For me, family unit gatherings aren't that corking either. During holidays my family unit and relatives all gather and we go out to eat, and when I see my cousins it'southward similar they try to be completely strangers on purpose: they don't endeavour to talk to me, they don't say hi, they basically pretend I'm non there. So I e'er dread the the time later on dinner when the fiddling ones hangout with the little ones and the adults with adults, I always stop up sitting the couch and watching some boring idiot box show for 3 hours to consume the rest of my "family time", while my cousins go hang out with their closer ones. But luckily, that mostly applies only to my female cousins around my age, I occasionally get to play with my younger cousins (more like babysitting), and talk to a few of my male cousins. I swear sometimes that my female cousins think I'g going to become upward to them and slap with an incestuous act or something. So in the end, I never really get to feel that "family bonding" time during holiday gatherings.
- #xiv
i like my family and spending time with them reminds me i am basics for a reason.
- #sixteen
Lol you'd hafta send information technology through the mail...and it would but explode on me when I opened it. (Cakes do that, ya know. Adjacent time you want to prank someone, send them a block through the mail! )
----Steve
- #17
*Sigh* said:
Wow, this is exactly what happens to me... I feel so destroyed just sitting in that location like a bumb watching idiot box while everyone is laughing it up.
- #eighteen
I think it really depends on the kind of family unit you take. If your relatives are truly good people, then it'southward worth making the attempt to collaborate with them! You can even practice your social skills the solar day before by meeting with friends or doing something where you'll have to collaborate with people. Likewise, if you're unsure of your conversational skills, maybe you can requite them extra-thoughtful gifts, inlcuding things you made yourself, similar home-fabricated greeting cards, cookies, little stories, etc. All skilful people appreciate attention and thoughfulness.
The trouble with my family (and many families out at that place) is that the family members are not good people. My aunts and uncles have Actually betrayed my parents in very serious situations... and what practise you do later that? Either sever all ties with them (which my mom did with her sisters), or continue socializing like zip happened (which my dad is doing with his brother). I'm sick of all of them - I prefer to but take care of my parents and avoid the rest of the family.
Big Christmas Hugs to everyone!!! (((HUG))) (((HUG))) (((HUG))) Merry Christmas!
- #20
Yes, I hate them. So stressful, depressing and solitary. Simply my family doesn't really care if I'k around, I just go left out, so I avoid going now.
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